Dietary Choices or Carry On Regardless


Basically it started, as I understand it with my limited male-gendered brain, when lady, who is a noted (famed for it really) foodie with special dietary preferences, was displeased when her suitor was unable to suggest a suitably epicurean venue for leisurely discourse, which may hopefully (for said suitor, probably) advance towards intercourse. Or at least some hanky sprinkled with panky.

It further transpired that said suitor had cooked a steak lunch for his family and in the process stuffed himself; thus rendering him impotent to think about food and dinner and thereby earning him his lady love’s displeasure.

Finally, the flaccid evening ended prematurely. Presumably both in their own homes.

So what does this have to do with me? Well, this blog was asked what I thought about the above story, how I would deal with a relationship that included dietary preferences and if there are certain advantages to being a foodie in the pursuit of lady love.

Creamed Corn and Poached Eggs with Bacon

How the hell should I know? Do I look like I have a harem of supermodel girlfriends and a brood of children all of whom will mourn my tragic end as I was heroically rescuing woman and children from a sinking battleship?

But I would have to say that I was once in the very same situation where I’ve just had a very pleasant dim sum lunch with friends that ended at 4pm (for me, my friends ate lunch till almost 6pm). After a 2-hour movie, when I was still stuffed to the gills, she asked me what’s for dinner.


My first suggestion of Chinese was uninspired and met with a smack-down in the form of an arched eyebrow and a vocal but gentle derision which I richly deserved. She is well-traveled and has an exquisite palate. The lesson learned here is that one must always be prepared with a long list of suitable places to eat. Size matters as your lady love must be impressed and delighted when you whip it out.

With the first option shot down faster than a lead zeppelin, I had to call a cheffy friend to see if he’s open for dinner. Lo and behold, he was. Long story short, it was a wonderful day out capped by a memorable dinner. So, yay!

Passion Fruit Meringue

So yes, I would say being a foodie does have it’s advantages when it comes to choosing a suitable place of repast. Of course, that’s just the first step…

As a guy of the male gender, I would have to say that going out with other guys is far easier:

Guy A: Oi! How’s it hanging?
Guy B: Left one lower than the right. Coffee?
Guy A: Yeah, I want a prata too.
Guy B: Whatever. See you in 15.

Whereas arranging to go out with women can be… challenging:

Girl: Feed me.
Guy: OK, how about GoldenDragonMeetsJadePhoenix?
Girl: Eeee, how can two people eat in a Chinese restaurant?
Guy: Oh… Errr… How about PregoFeliciano at OneOccupiedSquare?
Girl: It’s too close to my workplace! I don’t want to go back to work and Italian is soooo common now!
Guy: How about Aix-en-Pains?
Girl: Never heard of it. Is it good?
Guy: I don’t know, let’s go try?
Girl: Why are you bringing me to a place that you know nothing about? Don’t you care about me? Quick check the Internet!

You may think that I’m exaggerating this but I tell you this is what I get in real life. It becomes so predictable and boring that after a while I disengage.

As the Bard would put it:

Was ever woman in this humor wooed?
Was ever woman in this humor won?
I’ll have her, but I will not keep her long.
Richard III, Act 1, Scene 2, Aisle 2, Row 16, Seat 23B


So why bother? Waiting around for someone to take a fancy to you. It’s time-consuming and it’s labor-intensive. After all, with professional escorts, in a happy contradiction to the Lennon-McCartney doctrine, all you need is cash.

The difference between retail and wholesale is that in retail, they truly care about customer satisfaction.

Those who say that money can’t buy happiness have never been really poor. It’s a rich-person-first-world sentiment. Very much like most of the dietary choices made today, as Anthony Bourdain noted about vegetarians and vegans, it is “a first-world phenomenon, completely self-indulgent“.

And yet, we persevere; carry on regardless, as it were. Does it matter that she has a dietary preference or some other quirk or insecurity? You’re no prize either.

I can go on and on but it gets tedious and you have better things to do, so I’ll just end here simply with this:

Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins. – 1 Peter Chapter 4 Verse 8


Posted on 6th Nov 2011 in Food and Drink, Musings, Singapore


There Are 4 Comments


sooks commented on November 6, 2011 at 10:44 pm

some of those pictures look familiar! hahaa.. interesting read. 🙂


yixiao commented on November 7, 2011 at 3:38 pm

if she/he truly cares for her/his dining companion(s), she/he would not put him/her through so much grief over a meal.


imp commented on November 8, 2011 at 12:22 am

I want to ask, is the concern over dietary habits an Asian-Chinese thing? It doesn’t seem to be an issue at all amongst some other cultures.

It also seems to be an age thing. Amongst older dating couples, it doesn’t seem very prevalent, to each his own, seemingly. Although, yes, choice of makan venue features largely because I/we/us don’t want to waste stomach capacity on crap food anymore.

AND, my bear looks stunned and dazed at your very cheem entry.


Ivan commented on November 8, 2011 at 3:49 am

@imp: I don’t think so, I feel it’s more of a social/wealth thing: when you’re poor, you eat everything that’s put in front of you. So I agree with Tony Bourdain on this score.

On the age front, I think two factors: as you get older, affluence increases somewhat and when you can afford to go anywhere, nothing really matters.

And, at a certain age, gorging on buffets is no longer anybody’s cup of tea. Quality, not quantity; More Shinola than Shit. The meal becomes more of enjoying one’s company more than anything else.

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